Dear Amy: Every year, our aunts, uncles and cousins plan a yearly “European family vacation.”
Amy Dickinson, Special to Postmedia Network
Seven days a week, letter after letter, Amy Dickinson applies an objective eye to reader problems large and small in "ASK AMY: Advice for the real world." Amy's extensive experience includes a column on family issues for TIME magazine, regular contributions to National Public Radio's "All Things Considered" and guest spots on CBS' "Sunday Morning." As an advice columnist, Amy uses her talents as a journalist and her personal experiences to answer each question with the care and attention she would devote to her closest friends. Her advice is rooted in honesty and trust, traits she applies to her writing and her life. Dickinson, who grew up on a small dairy farm in New York, currently lives in Chicago with her teenage daughter. A graduate of Georgetown University, Dickinson also has worked as a producer for NBC News and as a freelance writer for publications such as The Washington Post, Esquire and O magazine.
Dear Amy: I am a 52-year-old divorcee who recently married a wonderful 62- year-old widower.
Dear Amy: My husband and I decided to do a DNA test for fun.
Dear Amy: I was on my husband’s phone recently and saw he had been watching videos featuring lots of different women: Women who were doing things like folding towels, pretending to give haircuts and sometimes just whispering. Nothing sexual, just long videos of really nothing happening.
Dear Amy: Recently, a close mentor of mine was accused by multiple women of sexual misconduct in the ‘90s. The accusations (many of them quite graphic) were made public in a national and highly respected publication.
Dear Amy: I am one of six adult siblings. We gather once or twice a year in a low-key kind of way to stay connected and catch up.
Dear Amy: I am a 21-year-old college student. I’ve been friends with a fellow student named “Rob” for the past three years. I have never known Rob to be anything but a kind and trustworthy person. For the past two years, Rob has been dating another student at our college, and their relationship seems very healthy.
Dear Amy: My boyfriend “Wally” and I bought our first home together 10 months ago. Three months ago, his friend “Bart” moved into our guest room.
Dear Amy: My wife and I are in our mid- 60s, married for 14 years. We have two teenage children, and I have three adult children by previous partners.
Dear Amy: I was awakened at 3 a.m. by my four-year-old crying out for me.
Dear Amy: I am the youngest in my family; my siblings are older by many years. Years ago, I found out that my father had a history of abusing girls. At a family reunion a couple of years ago, one of my older nieces asked me about my father — apparently she was one of his victims.
Dear Amy: My aunt has a long history of being volatile with the family. She runs very hot and cold. I have fond memories of her when I was a child. As a young adult, she has been generous toward me.
Dear Amy: Over the past dozen years, a friend of mine has volunteered to stop by the house to let my dogs out during the day while I am at work.
Dear Amy: Earlier this year my youngest brother “came out.” The fact that he is gay isn’t exactly shocking, but it’s something we are all still adjusting to. He is the youngest, so he is spoiled, and acts very emotional when he doesn’t get his way.
Dear Amy: I am a nurse. I started dating a police officer seven months ago.
Dear Amy: I am a male in my early 70s. I made a terrible mistake when I was 16 years old: I got my girlfriend (also 16) pregnant.
Dear Amy: My husband had an affair with another woman for more than six years. We’ve been married more than 25 years and I’m sad to say that we haven’t had sex for almost 20 years.
Dear Amy: One of my sisters and her husband live two hours from me and my husband. There are events in our town my sister and her husband like to attend.
Dear Readers: In the spirit of this “giving” season, I present my annual roundup of charitable organizations readers should consider supporting.
Dear Amy: My mother is a hard working and dedicated mother, but she has some very problematic views of the world. She assumes that refugees are going to terrorize our country and that women only gossip and tear each other down (for instance). The thing is, she is an immigrant herself from a Latin country.